RAP Sheet February 9th, 2020
This week we learned the important role that people in our lives play in our Habits. The company you keep tends to determine the direction you go. That is because people are often triggers that lead us into our habit cycles.
However, this is not as easy as avoiding problem people! We are called to be the hands and feet of Jesus to ALL people. At the same time, we do not want to be led astray or fall back into old patterns.
What is a relationship from your childhood that had a bad influence on you?
Who were you around growing up that set a good example for you?
You, therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. 2 What you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, commit to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. (2 Timothy 2:1)
We all need people who are more mature than us in different areas of our lives. We also need to be mentoring and loving people who are behind us in maturity.
What is an area of your life that you are being mentored in by someone with more life experience/knowledge/maturity?
What is an area of your life that you struggle with and do not have anyone to look to for help?
Once we have people ahead of us and behind us, we have to choose where to ANCHOR ourselves relationally. If we anchor behind us, we will be quickly drawn to immaturity. However, if we anchor to people ahead of us, we will likely continue on to the mature people we were created to be.
On a piece of paper, or even on your phone, make a list of the 5-10 people who you are closest to relationally. Next, take some time to think about where they are at in their maturity. If they are generally LESS mature than you, move them to one list and if they are generally MORE mature than you, move them to another.
This will help you get clarity on who you are surrounded with. If you only have people less mature than you, you need to consider finding some people that can pull you forward in life. If you only have people ahead of you, you need to find people that you can be an example to.
Once you can see how your friends line up, ask yourself: WHERE AM I ANCHORED?
An Anchoring relationship does not mean that is where you spend the most time or even that you are the closest to them. An Anchoring relationship is where you look to get the PICTURE of who you are becoming. Once you can see the picture, you can start the process of becoming who God created you to become.
Relationships are hard! Pray for yourself and your team as you seek to Anchor yourself correctly with the people around you. Remember the words of the apostle Paul: "Do not be deceived: 'Bad company corrupts good morals.'" as well as, "I have become all things to all people, so that I may by every possible means save some."
Ask God for wisdom navigating your social life. Pray that the Holy Spirit would guide you to be the hands and feet of Jesus to those who may not know Him yet, while also staying strong on the path to the purpose we were created for.